There are different things in life that can motivate us. It may be that someone loves us so much that motivates us to do great things in life. It may be our children that motivate us to do good for the sake of their little lives that we hold so dear in our hearts. Believe it or not it may just be an ugly experience in life such as the break up of a family. I know your thinking "Jen how can that motivate us?"
Let me explain... I recently went through a break up of my family. I invested everything I had in to this relationship. Made sacrifices that some of my family members were mad about. But I did that because I wanted something I did not have as a child, a close family. Don't get me wrong my family may not be as close as I necessarily want; but if something happens to one of us we rally together for one another. See I have been so busy chasing after what "I" thought would make me happy, that I never allowed myself to ask "what motivates you?". Going through this break up has caused me a great deal of anger and pain. Pain for both myself and the children. Then one day while talking to a great friend, I said "will this anger ever go away?" and he responded "Jen let the anger motivate you before it destroys you." As Oprah says that was my AAAAHHHH moment if you will!
Don't get me wrong the pain and anger are both still there but now I'm trying to let it motivate me instead of control me!! That was a powerful conversation for me. One that started the change of my life.
I have since started to write my book, joined a writers group and allowed myself the right to receive support instead of being the one to give it. And I've been getting wonderful reviews so far from people on my book. A hidden talent that I never knew could or would become anything.
So people what I'm trying to say is that yes even something life changing and potentially life shattering can be what it takes to motivate us. Today I can show my daughter while teaching her that things are not always as bad as they seem at that moment. And if we take the time to put our anger aside to look for the good in a bad situation we will be able to find at least one. I have found quite a few!
Ultimately "we" and "we" alone are responsible for what happens to us in life. And "we" can choose our Healthy Freedoms in life. If "we" allow our self!! So go ahead give yourself permission to be motivated to do something good for yourself today, you'll be glad you did. I dare ya!!!!
Please don't forget as we come into the holiday season to keep all of our service men and woman in your prayers for a safe return to their families.
