After you watch this short & powerfull clip ask yourself what exactly it is that has you feeling sorry for yourself. If this does not make you stop and think then I dont know what will.
http://www.maniacworld.com/are-you-going-to-finish-strong.html
Keep on Keeping on family!!
Need I say more after this video?
Please keep the men,woman and families of the military in your prayers for safe returns.
God Bless you and keep you safe.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
"LETS MAKE HISTORY TOGETHER"
I was watching television last night while trying to wind down from the craziness of the day & it hit me. WOW history is being made & good things are on the rise. Those of you that know me know that I'm a not a political person I don't take sides. It is my believe that it should be "For the people by the people" & not all this fighting & blaming that goes on. With that being said let me remind you this blog is of opinion and we all have our opinions. After all that is what makes us different. As I watch all the hoopla on TV about our new president & how history is being made I listen to all the hope that people are expressing in this changing of the guard if you will. I cant help but to be inspired with everyone else. We must push past our differences and all the negativity that is in this world. I for one believe that this world can be restored if everyone would just do their part.
Ponder this for a moment. If each of us just helped 5 people to find some thing to be positive about or took those 5 people and looked to see where you could be a blessing in their life's; then those 5 people will in turn help someone & then look what happens. The world starts to be reborn!! Change starts within ones being, negativity starts to dissipate and hope is recharged. You start to see things with freshness and a sense of newness to them. We heal ourselves while offering attention to another who is put on our path. Trust me I have been given that wonderful opportunity in life & there is no drug that can compare!
Remember that there are alot of people going through some extremely rough times right now. And at 1st people may not be receptive to the gesture so don't give up. Our emotions are controlled by our circumstances most of the time. So if we can control our emotions and how we react then God will be by our side to help us help others. After all; he is trying to help us fight our battles. When we let him. I also believe that God wants us to have an abundance of good. So why not help others the same way he wants to help us. Sounds like a win win to me!
We don't have to be an American president to make the world a better place or to make history or cause a wave of good change to happen. All we need is help to jump start the inspiration that is already in each of us. Don't be afraid to move forward with what feels good about doing for others rather let yourself be moved forward. Lets make history together and help one another to find the HEALTHY FREEDOMS that lay in each of us, so that they may come to the surface and be allowed to make a difference in someones life.
Now I could be way off on this one or maybe I am just so filled with hope for the future that maybe just maybe if we all try this theory of mine we may get to experience history from our doings not our watching from the sideline. I dare you to try it!!
As I close please remember to say a special prayer so that our men & woman of the military are kept safe so they can be reunited with their families one day soon.
God Bless and keep you all safe.
Ponder this for a moment. If each of us just helped 5 people to find some thing to be positive about or took those 5 people and looked to see where you could be a blessing in their life's; then those 5 people will in turn help someone & then look what happens. The world starts to be reborn!! Change starts within ones being, negativity starts to dissipate and hope is recharged. You start to see things with freshness and a sense of newness to them. We heal ourselves while offering attention to another who is put on our path. Trust me I have been given that wonderful opportunity in life & there is no drug that can compare!
Remember that there are alot of people going through some extremely rough times right now. And at 1st people may not be receptive to the gesture so don't give up. Our emotions are controlled by our circumstances most of the time. So if we can control our emotions and how we react then God will be by our side to help us help others. After all; he is trying to help us fight our battles. When we let him. I also believe that God wants us to have an abundance of good. So why not help others the same way he wants to help us. Sounds like a win win to me!
We don't have to be an American president to make the world a better place or to make history or cause a wave of good change to happen. All we need is help to jump start the inspiration that is already in each of us. Don't be afraid to move forward with what feels good about doing for others rather let yourself be moved forward. Lets make history together and help one another to find the HEALTHY FREEDOMS that lay in each of us, so that they may come to the surface and be allowed to make a difference in someones life.
Now I could be way off on this one or maybe I am just so filled with hope for the future that maybe just maybe if we all try this theory of mine we may get to experience history from our doings not our watching from the sideline. I dare you to try it!!
As I close please remember to say a special prayer so that our men & woman of the military are kept safe so they can be reunited with their families one day soon.
God Bless and keep you all safe.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
"WARMER/COLDER"
As we head into the new year with new ideas, new situations or just new circumstances in general no matter how big or small; and hopefully we are all going into it with a renewed spirit for nothing but good things ahead of us! Lets head into it with a positive attitude & throw away the set up for disappointment called a "resolution". Not to many of us stick to them anyhow. I believe if you go into the year with positive ideas and a goal list of things you would like to accomplish instead of a have to resolution list you are more likely to succeed. Let me explain. We are our own worst critics I know this from experience. We get so caught up in things that we forget to forgive ourselves for a mistake we may have made along the way. If you make a "Would like to accomplish list" instead of a "Have to list" then you wont be as upset if you can only scratch 7 out of 10 items off the list. Life happens & sometimes we cant help what happens around us or to us. Now I'm not saying that to allow you an excuse for not doing anything. I'm just giving you permission to not be so hard on yourself! God has lots of promises and opportunities in store for us. He wants to give you enough to bless other people that may come in your life.
A person can not expect to stay focused on the defeat and think they will be able to move forward. After all we are masters of our own fate! And isn't it funny how many times we have talked ourselves out of a good thing, because we are so afraid? Or how many times we have overwhelmed our self with things to do, so that we wont be forced to look at our fears. I read this profound statement in a magazine and I cant help but to share it because it is sooooooo true, it reads: "All the commotion that goes with reinventing myself might just be a distraction from my greatest fear: failure!" WOW That really stuck out to me because I am so afraid of failure that I never even thought about the possibility of success. I'm sure that comes from old behavior & old situations in the past that have knocked me down. But I can not and will not focus on that I must focus on moving forward in a positive mind frame.
Do you remember when you were little playing the game; "your getting warmer/colder"? I seen an article that spoke about using this game to guide ones intuition otherwise known as your gut instinct. We have all been through a situation I'm sure (if your being honest) where we have ignored that little voice that comes from our gut telling us not to do something. If you are a person that struggles with listening to your gut instinct try this instead. Make a list and break it down into components as to which feels warm or cold, good and bad will work as well. And remember to be 100% honest with your feelings on the matter while doing this. The paper wont justify if you wont either!!
Make a choice for your life based on what makes you feel freer and happier, rather than on how you think an ideal life should look. Try to live a life based on Healthy Freedoms for your life and only your life not someone elses. Things are not always what they appear and one may be very unhappy on the inside. Life is a process as well as a journey lets have fun along the way no regrets!!
As I close please keep our soldiers everywhere in your thoughts and your prayers for safe returns to their loved ones.
Good night and God Bless.
A person can not expect to stay focused on the defeat and think they will be able to move forward. After all we are masters of our own fate! And isn't it funny how many times we have talked ourselves out of a good thing, because we are so afraid? Or how many times we have overwhelmed our self with things to do, so that we wont be forced to look at our fears. I read this profound statement in a magazine and I cant help but to share it because it is sooooooo true, it reads: "All the commotion that goes with reinventing myself might just be a distraction from my greatest fear: failure!" WOW That really stuck out to me because I am so afraid of failure that I never even thought about the possibility of success. I'm sure that comes from old behavior & old situations in the past that have knocked me down. But I can not and will not focus on that I must focus on moving forward in a positive mind frame.
Do you remember when you were little playing the game; "your getting warmer/colder"? I seen an article that spoke about using this game to guide ones intuition otherwise known as your gut instinct. We have all been through a situation I'm sure (if your being honest) where we have ignored that little voice that comes from our gut telling us not to do something. If you are a person that struggles with listening to your gut instinct try this instead. Make a list and break it down into components as to which feels warm or cold, good and bad will work as well. And remember to be 100% honest with your feelings on the matter while doing this. The paper wont justify if you wont either!!
Make a choice for your life based on what makes you feel freer and happier, rather than on how you think an ideal life should look. Try to live a life based on Healthy Freedoms for your life and only your life not someone elses. Things are not always what they appear and one may be very unhappy on the inside. Life is a process as well as a journey lets have fun along the way no regrets!!
As I close please keep our soldiers everywhere in your thoughts and your prayers for safe returns to their loved ones.
Good night and God Bless.
Saturday, January 3, 2009
"The Come Back"
Well the new year has come whether we wanted it to or not. I personally am glad that 2008 is behind me. My belly is full of excitement with all that is about to come for me & my beautiful daughter in 2009. I just have to stay focused and not allow disappointment in or about people or situations to discourage me. I'm sure that for many of us that is easier said then done!
Life is full of things that are set in our way to try and hold us down. Disappointments and setbacks. It's so easy to get discouraged, lose your enthusiasm or even be tempted to just settle for where you are in life when this happens. It is especially hard in this day and age when people are losing their jobs, houses and even their relationships. We just can not allow ourselves to get sucked in to settling for any less then we deserve. I have an opinion about what some people deserve! However this is to be an upbeat post & lets face it I'm not God. :)
Know that every time adversity comes against us, its a setup for a comeback!!
Think back to a time when something hurt or scared you so badly that you did not feel you had it in you to keep going. But you found something drudged up in your inner being that said "you can and you will go through this and you will be better for it". I've personally gone through more than I care to but lets hope that is behind me. I'm tired of settling because I think I see potential in someone or a situation just to be the one holding onto a resentment. I want to and can be a better person. Today is another day to learn how to be more serene how to nurture our body and our spirit. After all folks we have the tools in our tool belt we just have to make a choice to take them out and use them for rebuilding.
Bottom line is that if it does not set well with your gut instinct then don't proceed. And that goes for anything in life! This should be a time to reflect back on the year and see our growth, an old habit we were able to break or maybe we are in the process of overcoming something that has happened to us. No matter what it is look and find something about last year that you can use for a positive direction in to the new year. Remember that as long as we are alive we will ALWAYS wrestle with questions, seek answers and try to solve problems. We CAN do this with grace and we MUST do this with gentleness towards ourselves and others around us.
Hold on to your higher power no matter what that may be. My higher power happens to be God. I understand that some people may call their higher power something else so please don't let my view offend you.
If you stay in faith, your higher power will turn what was meant to be a stumbling block into a stepping stone and you will move forward as a better person. And the reward will be so much better then you could ever expect. I know from my own personal experience that when I completely not partially but completely get out of Gods way to do his plan in my life I'm so much happier & more fulfilled then I could of ever imagined. So then why should I be so afraid of what is to come?!
Time is a circle just as the months in our calendar. As it is said in a Chinese Proverb: "Be not afraid of changing slowly; be afraid only of standing still". Let this year be your year for a Healthy Freedom COMEBACK. Don't beat yourself up for making baby steps, only be mad for making no steps.
As I close please remember to keep our men and woman of the service, in your prayers for a safe return to their loved ones soon.
Good night & God bless!
Life is full of things that are set in our way to try and hold us down. Disappointments and setbacks. It's so easy to get discouraged, lose your enthusiasm or even be tempted to just settle for where you are in life when this happens. It is especially hard in this day and age when people are losing their jobs, houses and even their relationships. We just can not allow ourselves to get sucked in to settling for any less then we deserve. I have an opinion about what some people deserve! However this is to be an upbeat post & lets face it I'm not God. :)
Know that every time adversity comes against us, its a setup for a comeback!!
Think back to a time when something hurt or scared you so badly that you did not feel you had it in you to keep going. But you found something drudged up in your inner being that said "you can and you will go through this and you will be better for it". I've personally gone through more than I care to but lets hope that is behind me. I'm tired of settling because I think I see potential in someone or a situation just to be the one holding onto a resentment. I want to and can be a better person. Today is another day to learn how to be more serene how to nurture our body and our spirit. After all folks we have the tools in our tool belt we just have to make a choice to take them out and use them for rebuilding.
Bottom line is that if it does not set well with your gut instinct then don't proceed. And that goes for anything in life! This should be a time to reflect back on the year and see our growth, an old habit we were able to break or maybe we are in the process of overcoming something that has happened to us. No matter what it is look and find something about last year that you can use for a positive direction in to the new year. Remember that as long as we are alive we will ALWAYS wrestle with questions, seek answers and try to solve problems. We CAN do this with grace and we MUST do this with gentleness towards ourselves and others around us.
Hold on to your higher power no matter what that may be. My higher power happens to be God. I understand that some people may call their higher power something else so please don't let my view offend you.
If you stay in faith, your higher power will turn what was meant to be a stumbling block into a stepping stone and you will move forward as a better person. And the reward will be so much better then you could ever expect. I know from my own personal experience that when I completely not partially but completely get out of Gods way to do his plan in my life I'm so much happier & more fulfilled then I could of ever imagined. So then why should I be so afraid of what is to come?!
Time is a circle just as the months in our calendar. As it is said in a Chinese Proverb: "Be not afraid of changing slowly; be afraid only of standing still". Let this year be your year for a Healthy Freedom COMEBACK. Don't beat yourself up for making baby steps, only be mad for making no steps.
As I close please remember to keep our men and woman of the service, in your prayers for a safe return to their loved ones soon.
Good night & God bless!
Thursday, December 18, 2008
"Never Give Up"
These days that is so much easier said then done because of various reasons in each of our lives. I'm here to share something that has happened in my life that has inspired me to do just that, NOT GIVE UP!!
Sunday I was sitting in church (something I try to do regularly for myself) & the pastor recognized me for something I had done once out of kindness for another person. I did this particular thing because that is what people are to do. A friend of mine was going thru a really bad time seeing how she had to bury her mother/best friend & I just assisted her with getting a project done so that she could focus on what was important right then and there. I did not see it as being much of anything other then "doing unto others..." However the people that were involved have seen it to be a huge gesture of kindness. Ok with that being said, the pastor proceeded to say he was going to ask God for whatever is in my heart that it may come to pass for me. I thought to myself that was so nice he was going to talk to the big man on my behalf, little did I know it was going to be right there with the whole church. A particular person pulled me to the side & went on to say how he had seen an Ora around me & how he had asked God what this was about. God apparently told this man that he (God) had wonderful things in store for me & that he had seen what I was trying to do & honored that. And then the pastor came up to me & said I needed to be watching for whatever it was God was going to bring to me. I recently have gotten back into the church after being burnt, judged & let down by ALOT of people who claim to be Christians. I'm trying to do it for the right reasons not because someone is making me; but so that I can be a better mother & person in general. And this has been hard for me. I have to remember that they are people such as birds are birds. And if I sit on a park bench and a bird does what a bird does then I can't get mad or I can simply try another bench!!!
After this experience I went on about my business & thinking to myself "that is what good Christians are to do and say". So I did not put alot of stock into it. I'm just being honest because that's what good people do as well!! I'm here to tell you that it has not even been one week since all this has happened & those of you that know me well; know that I am a person that looks for signs that something is good or meant to be or not. I have been getting emails from people that want to help me accomplish my goal in helping other people be their best or at least help them find what their best is. And along the way it helps to make me that much of a better person. Because lets face it I'm a show me kind of girl, so I better be living what I'm telling. I've been getting daily readings that help to inspire me to keep going & never give up. One of which said when I feel discouraged or overwhelmed I have to stir up what God has put inside of me & I have everything I need to succeed. This is so true!! I remember asking a group of woman one time, "why is it that we have so many walls to run into when we are trying to do the next right thing?" And the answer was; sometimes God puts walls up for us to get thru to see how bad we want some thing. When I got done feeling sorry for myself I thought that makes sense. Think about it. You hear famous people say all the time "If you want something bad enough you can set your mind to it & accomplish it". So maybe, just maybe God wants to see if we are willing to apply the cost of getting something we claim to truly want, rather just the lip service part of it.
See in my opinion & its just that an opinion, I believe that God puts people & situations in our lives so that we may come out of it on top & where he has meant for us to be. I don't believe that all things we view to be horrible or just bad are meant for that purpose. I also believe that is when the devil is in his prime to attack us. When we are at our weakest moments.
Now I'm not anything other then just a regular person trying to do good & show love. Learning how to do it the right way along the way with the Freedom to make Healthy choices that all of us have at our disposal. I look at these to be affirmations from God that we're doing the next right thing & he is pleased. I have also learned from this experience that settling is no longer an option! Whether it be in a relationship (all kinds) or whatever it is we may want to accomplish in life. My goal is that I want to raise the bar, show my daughter and all of you to not be afraid, go after your dreams no matter what people do or say to you. Remember they are like birds & will act as such!! Never give up, find a postitive in what it is your going thru & remember there is ALWAYS someone worst off then you.
I love music and how it inspires me. So if I may let me give you something to hang on to even if you get nothing else out of this article. Having hope for yourself & others is like having a melody inside of us. Let your melody sing to you!
While enjoying your friends & family this holiday season, please keep our men & woman of the military in your prayers for a safe return to their loved ones some day soon.
Sunday I was sitting in church (something I try to do regularly for myself) & the pastor recognized me for something I had done once out of kindness for another person. I did this particular thing because that is what people are to do. A friend of mine was going thru a really bad time seeing how she had to bury her mother/best friend & I just assisted her with getting a project done so that she could focus on what was important right then and there. I did not see it as being much of anything other then "doing unto others..." However the people that were involved have seen it to be a huge gesture of kindness. Ok with that being said, the pastor proceeded to say he was going to ask God for whatever is in my heart that it may come to pass for me. I thought to myself that was so nice he was going to talk to the big man on my behalf, little did I know it was going to be right there with the whole church. A particular person pulled me to the side & went on to say how he had seen an Ora around me & how he had asked God what this was about. God apparently told this man that he (God) had wonderful things in store for me & that he had seen what I was trying to do & honored that. And then the pastor came up to me & said I needed to be watching for whatever it was God was going to bring to me. I recently have gotten back into the church after being burnt, judged & let down by ALOT of people who claim to be Christians. I'm trying to do it for the right reasons not because someone is making me; but so that I can be a better mother & person in general. And this has been hard for me. I have to remember that they are people such as birds are birds. And if I sit on a park bench and a bird does what a bird does then I can't get mad or I can simply try another bench!!!
After this experience I went on about my business & thinking to myself "that is what good Christians are to do and say". So I did not put alot of stock into it. I'm just being honest because that's what good people do as well!! I'm here to tell you that it has not even been one week since all this has happened & those of you that know me well; know that I am a person that looks for signs that something is good or meant to be or not. I have been getting emails from people that want to help me accomplish my goal in helping other people be their best or at least help them find what their best is. And along the way it helps to make me that much of a better person. Because lets face it I'm a show me kind of girl, so I better be living what I'm telling. I've been getting daily readings that help to inspire me to keep going & never give up. One of which said when I feel discouraged or overwhelmed I have to stir up what God has put inside of me & I have everything I need to succeed. This is so true!! I remember asking a group of woman one time, "why is it that we have so many walls to run into when we are trying to do the next right thing?" And the answer was; sometimes God puts walls up for us to get thru to see how bad we want some thing. When I got done feeling sorry for myself I thought that makes sense. Think about it. You hear famous people say all the time "If you want something bad enough you can set your mind to it & accomplish it". So maybe, just maybe God wants to see if we are willing to apply the cost of getting something we claim to truly want, rather just the lip service part of it.
See in my opinion & its just that an opinion, I believe that God puts people & situations in our lives so that we may come out of it on top & where he has meant for us to be. I don't believe that all things we view to be horrible or just bad are meant for that purpose. I also believe that is when the devil is in his prime to attack us. When we are at our weakest moments.
Now I'm not anything other then just a regular person trying to do good & show love. Learning how to do it the right way along the way with the Freedom to make Healthy choices that all of us have at our disposal. I look at these to be affirmations from God that we're doing the next right thing & he is pleased. I have also learned from this experience that settling is no longer an option! Whether it be in a relationship (all kinds) or whatever it is we may want to accomplish in life. My goal is that I want to raise the bar, show my daughter and all of you to not be afraid, go after your dreams no matter what people do or say to you. Remember they are like birds & will act as such!! Never give up, find a postitive in what it is your going thru & remember there is ALWAYS someone worst off then you.
I love music and how it inspires me. So if I may let me give you something to hang on to even if you get nothing else out of this article. Having hope for yourself & others is like having a melody inside of us. Let your melody sing to you!
While enjoying your friends & family this holiday season, please keep our men & woman of the military in your prayers for a safe return to their loved ones some day soon.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
"The Little Things"
Today I had an aha moment while in church. See as I sat there waiting for service to start I was thinking about what it was I was going to blog about & then it hit me "The Little Things". Today's message in church was about simplicity & I thought to myself, this is exactly what God wanted me to blog about. The pastor was delivering his message about how we always want more in life, when in fact God wants us to live a life of simplicity.
See we as human beings think that we always need "more" verses living with what we already have right in front of us. When in actuality the little things are what makes us the happiest, when allowed! We think that we have to want more in order to get more when what happens is that we loose the importance of just that. What is really important in life. Think about it; if you were to die was it that important the dishes did not get done or the emails did not get updated?
Or would you regret not spending those last minutes with our loved ones & all their beauty?!
I try to live a simplistic life and those of you that know me know this to be true. Some view this as being negative when in fact its my way of trying to focus on whats important to me. See for me it can be a little thing such as a soft whisper of "I love you", or a crazy sloppy kiss from my beautiful daughter (she will be 2 on Christmas day), a simple "nice to see you again" from someone that has only met you once before. Or when you don't think people appreciate when you are trying to do something good says to you "oh by the way I like what you had to say on..." it does not take much to let someone know how important they or what they are trying to do is. Send a sweet email, leave a nice note or call someone & leave a voice mail. So that you don't have any regrets and those of importance to you will know.
When I got home from church today I decided to research alittle bit about what the word simplicity means & this is what I found. Simplicity often connotes or expresses beauty, the quality of being simple, freedom from being difficult. See people tend to complicate things and make them more difficult then something truly is in an attempt to avoid facing what the real issue may be. I believe this is why some people tend to stay so busy that they don't know how to enjoy the little things in life. I was always so wrapped up in helping other people fix there problems so I did not have to look at my own. Then one day God took that from me & told me through a friend that maybe it was time I started looking at my own issues. That was a few 24 hours ago in what I believe to be preparation for problems to come.
As I embark on another part of my journey and struggle with some of my own trying times from recent life changes. Wasting time trying to make sense of why things happened. I have to remember that it is just that a waste of time! Because the only one that can or will make sense of this is God & that all I can do is control the control ables. My daughter is a dream come true for me something that I did not think was possible. When I watch her & partake in playtime it is then that I'm reminded on a daily basis to slow down & remember what is truly important, "The Little Things".
Slow down enjoy the simplistic beauty that surrounds you & is free for us to drink in. See folks none of us are promised tomorrow or even the rest of the day so live like its your last & with no regrets.
As always please keep the men & woman of the service in your prayers so that while they are over fighting a war for our Healthy Freedoms that they are kept safe for their return to us someday soon.
Embrace your journey & enjoy the little things!!
See we as human beings think that we always need "more" verses living with what we already have right in front of us. When in actuality the little things are what makes us the happiest, when allowed! We think that we have to want more in order to get more when what happens is that we loose the importance of just that. What is really important in life. Think about it; if you were to die was it that important the dishes did not get done or the emails did not get updated?
Or would you regret not spending those last minutes with our loved ones & all their beauty?!
I try to live a simplistic life and those of you that know me know this to be true. Some view this as being negative when in fact its my way of trying to focus on whats important to me. See for me it can be a little thing such as a soft whisper of "I love you", or a crazy sloppy kiss from my beautiful daughter (she will be 2 on Christmas day), a simple "nice to see you again" from someone that has only met you once before. Or when you don't think people appreciate when you are trying to do something good says to you "oh by the way I like what you had to say on..." it does not take much to let someone know how important they or what they are trying to do is. Send a sweet email, leave a nice note or call someone & leave a voice mail. So that you don't have any regrets and those of importance to you will know.
When I got home from church today I decided to research alittle bit about what the word simplicity means & this is what I found. Simplicity often connotes or expresses beauty, the quality of being simple, freedom from being difficult. See people tend to complicate things and make them more difficult then something truly is in an attempt to avoid facing what the real issue may be. I believe this is why some people tend to stay so busy that they don't know how to enjoy the little things in life. I was always so wrapped up in helping other people fix there problems so I did not have to look at my own. Then one day God took that from me & told me through a friend that maybe it was time I started looking at my own issues. That was a few 24 hours ago in what I believe to be preparation for problems to come.
As I embark on another part of my journey and struggle with some of my own trying times from recent life changes. Wasting time trying to make sense of why things happened. I have to remember that it is just that a waste of time! Because the only one that can or will make sense of this is God & that all I can do is control the control ables. My daughter is a dream come true for me something that I did not think was possible. When I watch her & partake in playtime it is then that I'm reminded on a daily basis to slow down & remember what is truly important, "The Little Things".
Slow down enjoy the simplistic beauty that surrounds you & is free for us to drink in. See folks none of us are promised tomorrow or even the rest of the day so live like its your last & with no regrets.
As always please keep the men & woman of the service in your prayers so that while they are over fighting a war for our Healthy Freedoms that they are kept safe for their return to us someday soon.
Embrace your journey & enjoy the little things!!
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
"Motivation"
There are different things in life that can motivate us. It may be that someone loves us so much that motivates us to do great things in life. It may be our children that motivate us to do good for the sake of their little lives that we hold so dear in our hearts. Believe it or not it may just be an ugly experience in life such as the break up of a family. I know your thinking "Jen how can that motivate us?"
Let me explain... I recently went through a break up of my family. I invested everything I had in to this relationship. Made sacrifices that some of my family members were mad about. But I did that because I wanted something I did not have as a child, a close family. Don't get me wrong my family may not be as close as I necessarily want; but if something happens to one of us we rally together for one another. See I have been so busy chasing after what "I" thought would make me happy, that I never allowed myself to ask "what motivates you?". Going through this break up has caused me a great deal of anger and pain. Pain for both myself and the children. Then one day while talking to a great friend, I said "will this anger ever go away?" and he responded "Jen let the anger motivate you before it destroys you." As Oprah says that was my AAAAHHHH moment if you will!
Don't get me wrong the pain and anger are both still there but now I'm trying to let it motivate me instead of control me!! That was a powerful conversation for me. One that started the change of my life.
I have since started to write my book, joined a writers group and allowed myself the right to receive support instead of being the one to give it. And I've been getting wonderful reviews so far from people on my book. A hidden talent that I never knew could or would become anything.
So people what I'm trying to say is that yes even something life changing and potentially life shattering can be what it takes to motivate us. Today I can show my daughter while teaching her that things are not always as bad as they seem at that moment. And if we take the time to put our anger aside to look for the good in a bad situation we will be able to find at least one. I have found quite a few!
Ultimately "we" and "we" alone are responsible for what happens to us in life. And "we" can choose our Healthy Freedoms in life. If "we" allow our self!! So go ahead give yourself permission to be motivated to do something good for yourself today, you'll be glad you did. I dare ya!!!!
Please don't forget as we come into the holiday season to keep all of our service men and woman in your prayers for a safe return to their families.
Let me explain... I recently went through a break up of my family. I invested everything I had in to this relationship. Made sacrifices that some of my family members were mad about. But I did that because I wanted something I did not have as a child, a close family. Don't get me wrong my family may not be as close as I necessarily want; but if something happens to one of us we rally together for one another. See I have been so busy chasing after what "I" thought would make me happy, that I never allowed myself to ask "what motivates you?". Going through this break up has caused me a great deal of anger and pain. Pain for both myself and the children. Then one day while talking to a great friend, I said "will this anger ever go away?" and he responded "Jen let the anger motivate you before it destroys you." As Oprah says that was my AAAAHHHH moment if you will!
Don't get me wrong the pain and anger are both still there but now I'm trying to let it motivate me instead of control me!! That was a powerful conversation for me. One that started the change of my life.
I have since started to write my book, joined a writers group and allowed myself the right to receive support instead of being the one to give it. And I've been getting wonderful reviews so far from people on my book. A hidden talent that I never knew could or would become anything.
So people what I'm trying to say is that yes even something life changing and potentially life shattering can be what it takes to motivate us. Today I can show my daughter while teaching her that things are not always as bad as they seem at that moment. And if we take the time to put our anger aside to look for the good in a bad situation we will be able to find at least one. I have found quite a few!
Ultimately "we" and "we" alone are responsible for what happens to us in life. And "we" can choose our Healthy Freedoms in life. If "we" allow our self!! So go ahead give yourself permission to be motivated to do something good for yourself today, you'll be glad you did. I dare ya!!!!
Please don't forget as we come into the holiday season to keep all of our service men and woman in your prayers for a safe return to their families.
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